Feeling Deeply: A Path Toward Healing and Connection
Emotions can feel overwhelming, confusing, and even untrustworthy at times. Many of us have learned to push them aside or judge ourselves for having them in the first place. But as authors and clinicians like Jennie Allen, Dr. Curt Thompson, Dr. Daniel Siegel, Dr. Larry Crabb, Lysa TerKeurst, and Aundi Kolber remind us, our emotions are not the enemy. They are invitations—signposts that can lead us toward deeper connection with ourselves, others, and God.
“Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.”
(Psalm 139:23, NIV)
Emotions Are Messengers, Not Masters
Jennie Allen writes about the ways our thoughts and feelings can spiral out of control if we don’t pay attention to them. In her book Get Out of Your Head, she encourages us to notice our thoughts and feelings instead of letting them dictate our identity.
Lysa TerKeurst echoes this in Unglued: our emotions can inform us, but they don’t have to control us. They are real, but not always reliable as guides for truth.
“The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?”
(Jeremiah 17:9, NIV)
Yet even as Scripture cautions us not to be led blindly by our feelings, it also shows us how God cares about them. Jesus Himself wept (John 11:35), felt anguish (Matthew 26:38), and showed compassion (Mark 6:34).
The Power of Naming and Integration
Dr. Daniel Siegel says, “Name it to tame it.” Naming our emotions helps calm our nervous system. Dr. Curt Thompson takes this further, showing how sharing our emotions in safe relationships can transform shame into belonging.
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
(Galatians 6:2, NIV)
When you name your emotions honestly before God and trusted people, you open space for healing.
Safe Spaces and Spiritual Growth
Dr. Larry Crabb believed our deepest need is for connection and meaning—not just relief. True transformation happens when we stop hiding and allow God and others to meet us in our pain.
Aundi Kolber’s Try Softer reminds us that gentleness toward ourselves is not weakness—it’s the doorway to healing.
“He will not crush the weakest reed or put out a flickering candle.”
(Isaiah 42:3, NLT)
Moving From Reaction to Response
Lysa TerKeurst says, “Feelings are indicators, not dictators.” When you slow down and invite God into your feelings, you gain clarity and strength to respond instead of reacting.
Practices like mindfulness, breath awareness, and prayerful reflection—found in both science and Scripture—help us calm the storm inside.
“Be still, and know that I am God.”
(Psalm 46:10, NIV)
A Spiritual Invitation
Every emotion is an invitation. Jennie Allen calls it an opportunity to renew your mind (Romans 12:2). Dr. Crabb saw it as a chance to let God reorient your desires. Aundi Kolber encourages you to listen kindly to the parts of yourself that hurt.
You don’t have to be afraid of what you feel. Your emotions are part of how God created you—wired for connection, meaning, and love. When you dare to pay attention to what’s happening inside, you take the first step toward healing.
Reflection Questions:
What emotion have you been ignoring or judging lately?
How might you practice naming it without shame?
Who is a safe person you could share it with?
What would it look like to try softer with yourself this week?
Would You Like Help Exploring These Emotions?
If you’re ready to find greater freedom, clarity, and connection in your emotional life, you don’t have to walk this path alone.
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