In a world that often tells us to push past pain and "keep it together," many Christians quietly struggle with internal fragmentation—dissociation, emotional numbness, and lingering shame. These inner realities are not signs of spiritual failure, but indicators of deeper wounds that need gentle, Christ-centered healing.
Books like Boundaries for the Soul by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller and The Soul of Shame by Dr. Curt Thompson offer powerful frameworks for understanding these struggles in light of God’s redemptive love. Together with Scripture, they paint a hopeful picture: God not only sees our hidden pain but invites us into a journey of integration and renewal.
Understanding the window of tolerance is crucial for trauma survivors, as it offers a framework for recognizing when they might be operating outside of their window and struggling to manage overwhelming emotions.
We are back at it in early January. I am writing after taking some time away with my family for the holiday season. It was a great trip to see family and create memories
Are you a parent that is just as concerned about raising your child the right way? Perhaps this post is geared toward raising boys, but I want to encourage all parents to consider the positive effect of raising their children in a Godly way.
A Woman's Worth and Beauty in a Marriage: The profound and deep waters only a husband can mend are something that are a ministry and a calling of each man in a Godly relationship with his wife.
Some would agree that we gather together at various times of the year to make some connection with our currents, our pasts, and our futures. Invariably the birth of a new year is something that causes me to pause a little and remember that time is not standing still, that there is a re birth that could happen, and that I need to continue to seek out the goals and remember the time.
Does it all matter? Do I matter? What does God say about matter???
At the end of this post I welcome feedback as it is a short one and I am asking for an interactive response about what it could mean if we mattered to ourselves, each other, and to God.
The link between loneliness and addiction. Johann Hari explains in his TED talk about how this was considered and how applying social concepts in Portugal, there was a remarkable difference in the country’s outlook and heroin population.
I remember this Olympic sized swimming pool because it was filled with salt water that was brought into the pool from the ocean that was nearby via piping. I don’t know exactly how deep it was. It was too far to reach or I had not known how to do so at the time. Thus the thought about my breath, and my popping ears, and I just remember that being in the pool was more buoyant than most pools because of the salt water.
Tuning into the marital therapy sessions and finding the voice each is expressing is an art. I spend some time contemplating how the “Challenging Times…” of the couple and the thoughts they are expressing are so difficult when they reach out to me. My hope is that you are not in a “bad” place reading this, but if you are… keep reading… as I explain a principle that sometimes works to create dialogue and communication.
These words are not mind, but I am borrowing from a Facebook friend who borrowed from a friend and while we don’t know how to contact or connect and give attribution to the writer, the words remain true. Should the writer find his or her words and work on my blog, then I defer and gratefully indicate they are the origin, but the words capture the concerns and time of this day and are something worth sharing.
